I did it back to front. I had kids first, got married second. My son Samuel (7) was my bestman. But who cares what order you do things these days? I’m not saying that there’s no value in sticking with tradition. But really once you have kids, and I have 3 of my own, what matters is not whether they arrived before or after your wedding day. It’s all about secure and loved you make them feel from the minute they are born.