The ultimate confirmation that you’ve booked the perfect bride & groom is when, years later, you look back on their wedding pictures and you can’t stop smiling! Because fantastic memories come flooding back and you feel overwhelmed with gratitude that you had the opportunity to contribute something significant for them and their families.
The contribution of the wedding photographer to any wedding is massive – particularly when the bride and groom have obviously prioritised photography and have invested significantly in it. But it’s still surprises me how few people recognise the impact and influence on weddings that photographers have. Particularly, I have to say, wedding planners. I’m not sure why this is. Perhaps they’ve worked with some inexperienced photographers in the past who’ve spoiled the day one way or another, usually by running late, and therefore they are careful not to elevate the role of the wedding photographer beyond ‘paid help’. And treat them as such – don’t overstep your mark, minimum communication, information on a ‘need to know’ basis and spoken to with mild disdain. That’s like sticking your head in the sand and hoping for the best if you ask me; choosing to downgrade the importance of the role of the photographer in your own mind won’t diminish his impact on the wedding day.
The photographer is at the side of the bride & groom for the entire day, from morning til night – if not immediately next to the couple, then certainly within eyeshot and earshot. His influence on their mood, stress levels and enjoyment is tangible and palpable. His whole demeanor, his positive, confident manner, his way with people, knowing when to step forward and when to step back, how he speaks no matter the circumstance, how he handles every guest and family member, his efficiency and time keeping, his ability to work speedily and to know precisely what happens next, his attitude, professionalism and awareness of all the factors affecting both the bride & groom (at every given moment) and the overall running of the wedding day itself. This all encompassing awareness comes with experience. It’s people skills and empathy and there are no shortcuts.
For me, the only thing that matters when I’m photographing weddings is that the bride & groom and their families and friends enjoy THE best day in their lives. That starts with recognising, respecting and prioritising one the biggest influences on the wedding day itself – me.